Why Pronouns Matter: A Simple Guide for Everyday Respect

Understanding the Basics

Pronouns are the small words we use every day to refer to people—words like she, he, they, or ze. For many, they might seem insignificant. But for someone whose identity has been misunderstood or ignored, being referred to by the right pronouns can mean everything. It’s a simple act that tells someone, I see you and I respect who you are.

At its core, using correct pronouns isn’t about political correctness—it’s about basic human respect.

Why Pronouns Matter

For members of the 2SLGBTQIA+ community, especially trans and non-binary people, pronouns are deeply tied to identity and dignity. When someone uses your correct pronouns, it affirms who you are. When they don’t, it can feel like being erased.

Research consistently shows that respecting people’s names and pronouns has a measurable impact on mental health—reducing rates of anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts among trans and gender-diverse individuals. Simply put, getting pronouns right can help save lives.

Common Pronouns

There are many pronouns people may use. Some of the most common include:

• She / Her / Hers – typically used by women and some non-binary people

• He / Him / His – typically used by men and some non-binary people

• They / Them / Theirs – used by non-binary people and others who prefer a gender-neutral option

• Ze / Zir / Zirs – less common, but another gender-neutral alternative

If you’re unsure, remember: never assume. Ask politely.

How to Ask (and What to Do If You Make a Mistake)

If you’re meeting someone new, you can model inclusivity by introducing yourself with your own pronouns first. For example:

“Hi, I’m Matthew—my pronouns are he/him. How about you?”

If you make a mistake, don’t panic or over-apologize. A simple correction works best:

“Sorry—they are leading the meeting.”

Move on respectfully and try to get it right next time.

Creating Inclusive Spaces

Workplaces, schools, and community groups can normalize pronoun use in easy ways:

• Add pronouns to name tags, email signatures, and Zoom profiles.

• Encourage introductions that include pronouns.

• Use gender-neutral language until someone shares their pronouns (e.g., say “they” instead of assuming “he” or “she”).

These small changes make a big difference in creating environments where everyone feels safe and seen.

Pride Halton’s Commitment

At Pride Halton, we believe inclusion starts with respect—and pronouns are a meaningful part of that. Whether you’re an ally, educator, employer, or community member, taking the time to learn and use correct pronouns is a simple yet powerful way to support the 2SLGBTQIA+ community.

Let’s build a Halton where everyone can be recognized for who they truly are—no assumptions, just respect.